21/05/2024
How you do money is how you do everything.
A comment often made in personal development and coaching is “How you do one thing is how you do everything.”
In other words, you behave consistently in accordance with your character across most of the different areas of your life.
This was very apparent in a recent client of mine, when we held our VIP day.
In relation with her money, she very much had an all or nothing approach. She either was very controlled with her spending, and only spent on necessities, or she was spending constantly, scrolling through her phone in the evening constantly adding items to her basket.
After this type of spending spree she felt excited for a short period of time.
But then the guilt and shame kicked in as to the amount she'd spent.
By the time the purchased item arrived, she didn't even remember what she had ordered, let alone feel excited by it.
When we discussed other areas of life, the following became apparent work.
• She swung between working very long hours to then taking significant amount of time off to replenish. Her recent replenishment time was moving into several weeks.
• Food: she swung from eating super healthily prepared nutritious salads and shakes etc. to having no interest in preparing food and ordering takeaways.
• Exercise: she swung from running five miles every day, (which in fact then resulted in a knee injury) to doing no exercise for several weeks. She was not even doing the knee exercises she'd been given by her physio.
It was really helpful for her to see the pattern which she'd previously been unaware of.
Once you see the pattern it then becomes so much easier to do something about it.
And the great thing is: it's the pattern that needs to be addressed, rather than behaviour in a specific area.
This means that once you address the behaviour in one area it automatically impacts on other areas.
For my client, we're addressing exercise first. She's been given “homework” to do 10 minutes exercise four days a week. This is allowing her to see you don't need to spend an hour doing exercise for it to be worthwhile.
What do you think?
Do you see certain patterns in your behaviour with money?
If you have patterns in your behaviour around money that you'd like to change, direct message me. We can discuss what your concerns are and what I can do to help.