07/21/2026
Things I Wish I'd Done Differently
Losing my mom has made me reflect on the things I wish I had done while she was still here. Maybe sharing them will encourage someone else to spend a little extra time with the seniors in their life.
If I could do it over again...
❤️ I would have hired a cleaning person sooner. As we age, keeping up with a home becomes more difficult, and sometimes accepting help isn't easy. Looking back, it would have eased so much stress for both of us.
❤️ I would have started helping her sort through and downsize her belongings earlier. It's overwhelming to do it all after someone is gone, and I know it would have been easier if we'd tackled it together over time.
❤️ I would have invited her over for more meals—or made sure she had meals delivered more often. Sharing a meal is about so much more than food.
❤️ Whenever I was running errands, I would have called to ask, "Do you want to come with me?" Even a trip to the grocery store or pharmacy would have meant getting out of the apartment and spending time together.
❤️ I would have said "yes" more often when she wanted to do something, whether it was going to a Blue Jays game or just getting out for the afternoon. There always seemed to be another day. Sometimes there isn't.
And lastly...
The things that irritated me are the things I miss the most.
My mom would call me several times throughout the day to tell me little things that had happened. She did it because she was worried she'd forget if she waited until later. I'll admit there were times I was busy and found it frustrating.
Today, I'd give anything for one more one of those phone calls.
If your parent, grandparent, or another senior in your life calls just to chat, maybe answer if you can. One day, those ordinary moments may be the ones you miss the most.
❤️
Hold them a little closer while you still can.