02/09/2026
There is a sentence a lot of us say without noticing.
I want to sort this, BUT. I know it needs doing, BUT.
The BUT always sounds like a reason. Time, money, the year being what it is. Sometimes those reasons are real. Often the BUT is just the place you stop, because moving forward would mean being seen before you feel ready.
Here is something worth trying. Listen for where your BUT sits. That thing you keep almost doing. Then say the same sentence with AND instead.
I want to sort this, AND.
AND asks what comes next.
BUT closes it down.
The distance between those two words is where a lot of change lives.