29/04/2023
Pangiti-ngiti lang yan pero madami na nalagok na tubig alat yan! 😀
When I was in my 20's pangarap ko talaga ung makapag-scuba diving and to get a PADI License, the most important license in scuba world.
This dream started when I went to Palawan and experienced snorkeling. Iba kasi ung pakiramdam sa ilalim ng dagat at sobrang nagandahan talaga ako sa marine life ng Pilipinas, sobrang ganda talaga, as in!!!
When I was 28, (wag nyo na isipin ilan taon na kaya ako ngayon haha!) finally nasubukan ko sya.
EXPECTATION vs REALITY:
Sa aking unang dive sa malalim na bahagi ng dagat, naramdaman ko ang takot na hindi ko inaasahan.
Ilang minuto palang sa ilalim ng tubig, habang palalim ng palalim, I had a panic attack. Nahihirapan ako sa paghinga, at sa aking isip, biglang sumagi ang mga larawang masamang mangyayari. Hindi ko alam kung bakit nangyari ito, ngunit bigla na lang akong natakot sa ilalim ng tubig. Natakot ako maubusan ng oxygen and worse, the trauma I had about a drowning experience when I was in highschool suddenly resurfaced.
Mula noon, hindi ko na masikmura ang pumasok sa tubig at sumabak sa diving. To cut the long story short, nasayang ung oxygen tank ko at kinalimutan ko na ung pangarap ko to get a PADI License. I still love the beach though. Hindi ko alam kung ano ang nangyari sa akin, pero alam ko meron akong trauma that needs to be addressed.
Nangyari na din ba ito sayo?
Ung merong bagay o pangarap ka na gustong gusto mo pero nung anjan na, hindi mo pala ito kaya, kasi eto ung limitations mo.
It's okay.
When I first realized I couldn't continue with scuba diving, first, I learned how important it is to heal from our traumas and to never force the healing process. Hindi lahat ng tao handa na sumubok ng bago, hindi lahat ng tao handa na ma-overcome ito. It's okay to try things pero hindi rin dapat nating ipilit ang sarili natin sa isang bagay na hindi natin kaya. At syempre, wag mo din hayaan na pwersahin ka ng ibang tao na i-overcome ang isang bagay lalo na kung wala ka pa dun sa proseso na gusto mo na syang ma-overcome. I realized my limitations and that is okay. Madalas kasi, pag hanggang doon lang ang kakayahan natin tapos pinipilit tayo ng ibang tao na iovercome ito, nagkakaroon tayo ng frustration and self doubts, which later on becomes toxic for our mental health and overall well being.
If you ever find yourself struggling with your own limitations, here are some tips for you:
1. Practice self-compassion: It's important to be kind to yourself when you face limitations. Girl, acknowledge mo muna ung emotions mo and allow yourself to feel them without judgment. Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding you would offer to a friend going through a similar situation.
2. Reframe your mindset: Instead of focusing on what you cannot do, focus on what you can do. Saan ka ba mas magaling? Identify your strengths and find ways to use them to achieve your goals. Reframe your limitations as opportunities for growth and learning.
3. Set realistic goals: It's important to set goals that are achievable within your limitations. Wag ka magpa-pressure sa mga tips and advice ng ibang tao at sa mga nababasa mo sa internet. Know your CORE. Avoid setting yourself up for failure by aiming too high. Break your goals down into small, manageable steps that you can work towards over time.
4. Find alternative ways to pursue your passions: If you face limitations in pursuing your passions, consider finding alternative ways to experience them. For example, okay naman mag snorkeling nalang, hindi ka naman "mediocre" if you settle for that. If you love to dance but have a physical limitation, you could try chair dancing or adapting your movements to suit your abilities. Wag ka magpadala sa dinidikta ng ibang tao. Buhay mo yan, wag silang pakialamero. 😀
5. Seek support: Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family, or a professional for support. Talking to others who have faced similar limitations can be helpful in gaining perspective and finding new ways to cope.
6. Practice gratitude: Focus on what you do have and what you have accomplished rather than what you have not. Gratitude can help you shift your perspective and find joy in the present moment.
Remember, everyone faces limitations in some form or another. It's important to accept your limitations, but also to keep an open mind and find new ways to pursue your goals and passions. With a positive mindset and a willingness to adapt, you can lead a fulfilling and satisfying life.
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