06/21/2026
Last night I sat in my living room breaking green beans and listening to music.
It reminded me of sitting with my grandma and my sisters years ago doing the same thing.
As a therapist, I spend a lot of time talking about self-care, stress, and nervous system regulation. But it struck me that people have been doing things that calm their minds for generations without calling it anything special.
There was something relaxing about the repetitive rhythm of breaking beans. No pressure to accomplish anything else. No scrolling. Just being present for a little while.
It made me wonder what those activities are for other people.
Maybe it’s fishing. Maybe it’s gardening. Maybe it’s quilting, baking, walking, or sitting on the porch with a cup of coffee.
Sometimes the things that help us slow down aren’t complicated at all.
Sometimes they’re the same things our grandparents were doing all along.