04/02/2025
A great mentor wrote something that really hit home and I felt like he was speaking to me personally!!!
By Carlos M Garcia Jr. :
When I was younger, I just wanted people to like me.
As an individual contributor, that mindset kind of worked. I avoided conflict, stayed in my lane, and kept the peace.
Then I got promoted. I was managing a team, approving schedules, dealing with call-outs, performance issues, and uncomfortable conversations.
And that’s where things got real.
I wasn’t good at confrontation. I’d worry about whether people would still like me after tough conversations. I’d over-apologize to customers even when they were in the wrong. I let boundaries slide, let bad behavior go unchecked, and often absorbed the blame just to avoid friction.
But here's the truth: You can’t lead while trying to win everyone’s approval.
I remembered something my dad told me about my grandfather — who built and led his business for over 40 years:
“In business, it’s more important to be respected than it is to be liked.”
That hit different.
Respect doesn’t mean being cold or a jerk. It means having clear standards, being direct when needed, and doing what’s right for the business — even if it ruffles feathers.
Some people won’t like you for it. That’s fine.
But the ones who matter will respect you. And in leadership — with yourself, customers, clients, or your own team — respect is the real currency.
If you’re stuck between wanting to be liked or doing what’s necessary… make the right choice and you'll get the right result.